Being a mom is hard. Being a mom of girls is even more hard. In a society where rape culture is enforced from the top down and every where we look sex is enforced for young girls, the world can be a scary place for the parents of daughters. I always joke that moms of boys have it easier–they have to worry about one penis, I have to worry about all of them. Well, I used to joke about that but with the war on little brown boys happening this is no longer a running joke.
My daughters are gorgeous and I’m not just saying that because they’re mine. Mini has these beautiful, big, brown eyes that are framed with thick lashes looking like she has an advanced beauty routine every morning. If you aren’t careful, you can get caught up in the puppy dog look she’s mastered. And abc is as cute (and mischievous) as they come. She’ll don the sweetest smile while telling you “no”. As a survivor of sexual assault and everything that comes after that, my biggest fear for them is that they have their choices about their bodies taken away or that they think they need the validation of others in order to feel good about themselves.
In order to combat that, we say five affirmations in the morning and five in the evening that remind them of who they are.
10 Affirmations To Repeat With Your Daughters
1. I am beautiful.
Every little girl should feel this way about themselves.
2. I am smart.
Life isn’t just about beauty.
3. I am funny.
If they are–of course this isn’t for everyone!
4. I am capable of making good decisions.
Because life is nothing but a series of one decision after another–better make them good!
5. I am strong.
Being a woman is hard and being a little girl still growing and developing is incredibly difficult.
6. I am trustworthy.
Mini came up with this one and I absolutely loved it.
7. I am kind.
We all deserve kindness in a world that seems to consistently lack it.
8. I can do anything I put my mind to.
“Can’t” is a curse word in our house. We’re raising little girls who “can”.
9. I am powerful.
Because they are.
10. I am worthy of greatness.
This one is so important to me. Self-worth is something that we all battle with and need to learn.
I’m a firm believer in the power of words and speaking. I want my kids to grow up knowing the greatness and love that has been poured into them by my village and I. I want them to always have a strong sense of self wherever they go and it starts at home.