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    How To Recover When Your Child Lies To You

    I don’t know anyone who’s like, “OMG! I love liars!!” so when I say that I can’t stand a liar, I’m sure I’m preaching to the choir here. When most people lie to you, you have the option to cut them out of your life or forgive and keep it moving. But when your kids lie to you? Well, that recovery is not that easy. 

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    My Experience In Breastfeeding Through The Years

    It feels like it was just yesterday that I was pregnant with Mini and making the decision to breastfeed for the first time. Being completely honest, I wasn’t 100% committed to this idea of breastfeeding. I was 25 and going through a really rough time in life. Divorce, an unplanned pregnancy and jobless–rough time doesn’t fully describe things! I just wanted things to be as easy as possible. She was my first experience in breastfeeding and I loved it. Continue reading

    10 Things Every Breastfeeding Mom Needs

    Women’s bodies are truly amazing. We grow people inside of us and then we make milk that sustains their lives. We are superheros! Now there’s no guarantee for success for nursing your baby but there are some things that every breastfeeding mom needs. Continue reading

    Nursing Moms & Dairy Cows: 6 Things They Have In Common

    I’m a wannabe country girl who can’t give up the city so when I had the opportunity to hang out with some dairy cows on one of Organic Valley’s farms, I jumped at the chance. I’m still breastfeeding BC and while I was away from him, I was on the pump. Naturally as I hung out with the dairy cows, I realized that they had quite a few things in common with nursing moms.

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    20 Toddler Friendly Summer Bucket List Ideas

    Summer is my favorite time of year. Having a toddler can be a little difficult which is why we came up with 20 Toddler-Friendly Summer Bucket List Ideas!

    Summer is my favorite time of year. The days are longer, the fruit is better, and this is the perfect season to make those family memories that will bring about nostalgia for many years to come. Conquering summer with a toddler is a balancing act however. There are very small windows between heat tantrums and nap time tantrums to make outings enjoyable. This toddler friendly summer bucket list takes into account their “lengthy” attention spans, but is also easy on your wallet so in the off chance a mission has to be aborted, it won’t be a budget strain. Continue reading

    10 Things I Hate About Teething

    I partnered with Wellements to share my thoughts and opinions on how their products have helped me with teething.

    Teething is literally the worst thing that babies and parents go through until potty training–which is pretty awful as well. But there are 10 things in particular that really grind my gears as it pertains to teething.

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    Making Time For Self Care When You Have No Time

    Making time for self care is one of those things that’s “on trend” right now but for many of us, it’s a fleeting thought. Last night I had the conversation with a friend and fellow mom about what self care is being touting about on social media. You see people talking about “Just left a 83739 day cruise!!! #SelfCare” or “I just took a 485 mile hike and feel amazing!!! #SelfCare”. Yes, these numbers are inflated but you get what I mean.

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    10 Must-Read Books For Black Girls

    If you didn’t already know, black girls are lit. We are creative, intelligent, magical, and just darn right fabulous from our head to our toes!  From our kinky, coily textured hair to the array of chocolate skin tones kissed by only the sun’s rays, black girls are everything to be desired. The crazy thing is, not every black girl knows this about themselves.  What they see in the mirror may be contrary to popular belief.  Our daughters, granddaughters, sisters, and nieces can sometimes struggle with challenges of self-identity. Self-esteem and knowing their self-worth in a world that was just not made for their benefit is truly difficult.

     

    Being a little black girl in the world today is pretty hard. Make it a little bit easier by giving them one of these 10 books to read that celebrates little black girls today.

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    Building Up Black Girls Matters

    To empower someone starts from within.  Building up the self-esteem of young black girls happens when we mirror what they already have inside of them.  There is so much material being created for our chocolate youth that is hidden in plain site that features them in ways that are courageous, intelligent, and capable of all things.  Having two daughters of my own now, I make sure to let them know every chance I get just how amazing they truly are.  One of the many ways I do so is by reading books with them that they can relate to on a societal and cultural level.

    Being a little black girl in the world today is pretty hard. Make it a little bit easier by giving them one of these 10 books to read that celebrates little black girls today.

    Representation Matters

    I don’t recall being presented with reading material that defined characters that represented who I was or what I looked like in order to be comfortable in my own skin.  Growing up, I wasn’t around other children that looked like me or shared the same background.  I felt ashamed of the texture of my hair and even the curvy shape that my hips and thighs gave me and I desired to be something I could never be.

    Being a little black girl in the world today is pretty hard. Make it a little bit easier by giving them one of these 10 books to read that celebrates little black girls today.

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    Flipping the pages of books that described a brown skinned girl that had thick lips and a wide nose like mine would have made me feel like I was not so alone.  I would have been able to recognize that my beauty came from the unique features I possessed both inside and out.  I could see myself wandering the pages of imaginary adventures of girls like me that were princesses, scientists, presidents, or just another neighborhood girl loving who she was just the way she was.

    Being a little black girl in the world today is pretty hard. Make it a little bit easier by giving them one of these 10 books to read that celebrates little black girls today.

    10 Must-Read Books For Black Girls

    I Love My Hair

    I Am a Pretty Little Black Girl

    Ada Twist Scientist

    Olivia and the Land of Extra Ordinary

    I Like Myself

    Happy to be Nappy

    When God Made You

    Penny and the Magic Puffballs

    Willemina Rule!: Rule #6: How to Face Up to the Class Bully

    No Mirrors in My Nana’s House

    Please Baby Please

     

    What are some of your favorite books that highlight black girls?

     

     

     

    You Know What You Need? To #TreatYoSelf This Mother’s Day

    Mom friends. Mother's Day is around the corner. Don't beg and wish upon a star to get what you REALLY want this year. Nope. #TreatYoSelf and love up on you this day!

    Every Mother’s Day arrives and most of us are all like “I don’t want anything“. And you know what? We do want things. We want our kids to behave. We want to feel appreciated. We want to be nurtured with spa days that we didn’t have to ask for because our loved ones feel like we’re doing THAT great of a job that they surprise us with them. But you know what happens most Mother’s Days? We get handmade cards (which I personally love), kids that give zero effs about us wanting to feel appreciated, and spouses that are consistently questioning what to get us–if we have them.

    Well, enough is enough. I’m declaring this Mother’s Day the National #TreatYoSelf Day for moms. So ladies, figure out what you want for yourselves this Mother’s Day and let’s make it happen FOR US!

    Stop Talking About Self Care And Be About It

    Seriously.

    I feel like we’ve all been on this huge self-care movement but we aren’t really doing it. And by we, I also mean me. I have post after post after post (yes, all of these are clickable so go ahead and get click happy) on self-care and do you know I’m terrible at even just giving myself a little bit of grace in life? Wait. Let me amend that statement. I WAS terrible but listen, I’m subscribing to this whole #treatyoself movement hardcore.

    You know why?

    Because I deserve it. And so do you.

    Mom friends. Mother's Day is around the corner. Don't beg and wish upon a star to get what you REALLY want this year. Nope. #TreatYoSelf and love up on you this day!

    What Does This #TreatYoSelf Even Look Like?

    Excellent question.

    Mom friends. Mother's Day is around the corner. Don't beg and wish upon a star to get what you REALLY want this year. Nope. #TreatYoSelf and love up on you this day!

    This is the Classic Spa Gift Basket from GourmetGiftBaskets.com. They have great stuff. Check them out.

    For some it’s taking long vacations by yourself while exploring places you’ve never been. For others, it’s sleeping in or doing their own nails. The important thing with #TreatYoSelf is doing something that makes YOU feel loved and nurtured. Forget what works for everyone else–do you boo boo, do you.

    This Mother's Day, #TreatYoSelf. Really. Take care of you. Do the things you want to do. Lay in the sun all day sipping these CrunchyMomMosa's. Relax. Unwind. Appreciate you and the work that you do for your family. No one is going to love you like you!Click To Tweet

    I asked the new contributors to TCM (aren’t they pretty awesome?) what this looked like to them and these were there responses:

    For me, self care is getting to spend time away from my kids. My husband owns a business so he works every day except Sunday and looooong hours. So I really need that alone time. Going to the gym for an hour every day and a hot bath are my two favorite options.

    Christine

    To me, self care as a mom is making sure that I separate myself from the kids and enjoy time alone to recharge and do what I love. Often times, we find ourselves so attached to our children that we forget who are individually. We’ve got to make sure we recharge every now and then so we have the energy to keep up with our little ones. Moms are the glue that keep our small worlds spinning. Without us, there would be chaos.

    Erin

    Mom friends. Mother's Day is around the corner. Don't beg and wish upon a star to get what you REALLY want this year. Nope. #TreatYoSelf and love up on you this day!

    This Mother’s Day, #TreatYoSelf. Really. Take care of you. Do the things you want to do. Lay in the sun all day sipping these CrunchyMomMosa’s. Relax. Unwind. Appreciate you and the work that you do for your family. No one is going to love you like you!

    Ready for a new twist on the Mimosa? Grab a bottle of Mionetto Rose, some Kombucha, Coconut Water and meet me in the kitchen.

    The CrunchyMomMosa

    Ready for a unique twist on a traditional breakfast drink? I know you are!

    Course Drinks
    Prep Time 5 minutes
    Total Time 5 minutes
    Servings 4 people

    Ingredients

    • 1 bottle Rose I used (and highly recommend) Mionetto
    • 1 bottle Kombucha
    • 8 oz Coconut Water
    • 1 handful Frozen Cherries

    Instructions

    1. Pop the bottle for the Rose. 

    2. Add cherries. 

    3. Add 2 oz of Kombucha. 

    4. Add 2 oz of Coconut Water. 

    5. Pour desired amount into glass.

    6. Sit back and enjoy.

    Spill it: How do you plan to #TreatYoSelf this Mother’s Day?

    How To Handle Being The Least Favorite Parent

    Favorites. We all have them in life. Favorite colors. Favorite kids. Favorite parents. But what if you’re the least favorite parent?

    A little after Evie turned one-year-old, she started demonstrating a preference for Dad. It wasn’t that noticeable, just showing a little more excitement when he came to play or change her diaper.

    Fast forward to now being over two-years-old and she is still clearly fixated on Dad, and as a mom that hurts- a lot.

    I’m officially the least favorite parent. 

    Mom As The Least Favorite Parent Though?

    Mothers and daughters are supposed to have this incredible bond, so when that isn’t the case it is easy to feel like a failure. I knew I was busy going to school full time, coaching, and working occasionally. I didn’t get to spend as much time with her as I did when I was a full-time SAHM, and it made sense that the less time we had the more distant our relationship became. But Tyler was also busy working from sun up until past sun down, and she wasn’t showing him the same frustrations as I was getting. What gives?

    A little googling and you will come across plenty of articles discussing favoritism and its developmental roots. “It is just a phase, don’t take it personally, they will get past it,” etc.

    Favorites. We all have them. And that was cool until I realized I wasn't the favorite. Click To Tweet

    Really though– I can read that over and over and still feel like a guilty, frustrated, and jealous parent. Why does she always cry with me when it is just us two? How come she wants to sit in dad’s lap and snuggle but I can’t touch her? What gives that she is a total different child when it is both parents with her versus just me?

    The Toddler Cycle Of Doom

    Favorites. We all have them. Favorite foods. Favorite colors. Favorite books. And let's be honest, we even have a favorite parent. This is cool until you realize you're the least favorite parent--then it's not cool, ha!

    It starts a vicious cycle: toddler acts appropriately (and this is key to note: it is NOT a toddler’s fault. This is 100% normal behavior and they should not be demeaned for it and/or blamed). The un-favored parent feels neglected and gets frustrated. The longer this cycle goes, the more frustrated and distant the parent begins to feel to their child. At one point you may even get to the point of feeling, “Why do I bother?”

    You Aren’t Alone

    I feel you. I have been there.

    I have had days where I cry on the way home because I walk in to pick my sweet girl up from daycare,
    and she runs away the second she sees me, followed by throwing a fit to leave, and screaming the whole way home.

    She has cried tearfully “don’t like mom” when it comes to me attempting to do bedtime.

    I’ve sat across the room from her as she has played, wishing I could just be next to her without being told to “go mom!”

    But, for every one of those instances where I have been at my wits end calling Tyler demanding that he return home because I cannot take anymore of her whining (hello, mommy mental breakdown), there has been indefinitely more instances where I forget all of those ugly mom moments.

    Favorites. We all have them. Favorite foods. Favorite colors. Favorite books. And let's be honest, we even have a favorite parent. This is cool until you realize you're the least favorite parent--then it's not cool, ha!

    I’ve walked into daycare to pick her up and she sprints across the gym and thrusts herself in my arms, wrapping me in the biggest toddler hug claiming “miss you mom!”

    She has whispered in my ear “don’t leave mom” and thrown her arms around my neck to keep me snuggled with her at bedtime.

    I’ve been pulled to sit down so she can crawl in my lap to play Legos, read a book, or just talk.

    I try to remind myself of all those endless articles about her ever growing mind, and remember that they are right. She will get beyond this stage; I get her tantrums because she is emotionally comfortable to express herself; she is learning her limits. This too shall pass.

    So, here are some tips I have found to help guide me to be patient and loving when I am feeling rejected by my toddler!

    How To Handle Being The Least Favorite Parent

    Take a cheat moment.

    We all try to be those “great” moms that limit junk food and screen time, plan activities, and engage their child outdoors. If you’re feeling toddler-jected do what you can to calm the situation. If that means throwing on a movie so mommy can breathe and just take a second to reset, then do it.

    Don’t cave in

    If your toddler is having a bratty moment and throwing a fit because s/he wants something (and you’re saying no), then hold your ground! It is okay to be frustrated and to want to give in for the sake of being on your child’s “good side,” but all it will get you is deeper into a power struggle.

    Instead, try gently suggesting they take a minute to calm down. I recently read an article about the benefits of having a “calming corner” in your home. When a child is about to emotionally erupt, they can go to the calming area to read a book, play with some soft toys, or just be alone. This usually resets them and then they are in a better state when they have to re-confront the issue.

    Favorites. We all have them. Favorite foods. Favorite colors. Favorite books. And let's be honest, we even have a favorite parent. This is cool until you realize you're the least favorite parent--then it's not cool, ha!

    I tried this with Evie’s toddler-sized couch; she was upset about not getting to help with something I was doing and I asked her if she wanted to go to the “calming couch” to read. Reluctantly, she walked over with me and things de-escalated quickly after that!

    Stay Involved

    Try to make an extra effort to do a special activity every week. For me, I chose to take Evie to an indoor gym with inflatables (think the bouncy houses kids have at birthday parties). She has a blast each time, and it is nice that she sometimes needs my help to climb some of the obstacles! Other times we go to the Children’s Museum or the Zoo; even something like going on a picnic (if you don’t live somewhere with perpetual winter like Minnesota…) or taking them to the pool would be a fun outing!

    At the end of the day, just remember: take it one cup of coffee at a time, and try to enjoy even the hard parts since they’ll grow up and past this stage and one day you will miss it!

    Favorites. We all have them. Favorite foods. Favorite colors. Favorite books. And let's be honest, we even have a favorite parent. This is cool until you realize you're the least favorite parent--then it's not cool, ha!