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    How To Handle Being The Least Favorite Parent

    Favorites. We all have them in life. Favorite colors. Favorite kids. Favorite parents. But what if you’re the least favorite parent?

    A little after Evie turned one-year-old, she started demonstrating a preference for Dad. It wasn’t that noticeable, just showing a little more excitement when he came to play or change her diaper.

    Fast forward to now being over two-years-old and she is still clearly fixated on Dad, and as a mom that hurts- a lot.

    I’m officially the least favorite parent. 

    Mom As The Least Favorite Parent Though?

    Mothers and daughters are supposed to have this incredible bond, so when that isn’t the case it is easy to feel like a failure. I knew I was busy going to school full time, coaching, and working occasionally. I didn’t get to spend as much time with her as I did when I was a full-time SAHM, and it made sense that the less time we had the more distant our relationship became. But Tyler was also busy working from sun up until past sun down, and she wasn’t showing him the same frustrations as I was getting. What gives?

    A little googling and you will come across plenty of articles discussing favoritism and its developmental roots. “It is just a phase, don’t take it personally, they will get past it,” etc.

    Favorites. We all have them. And that was cool until I realized I wasn't the favorite. Click To Tweet

    Really though– I can read that over and over and still feel like a guilty, frustrated, and jealous parent. Why does she always cry with me when it is just us two? How come she wants to sit in dad’s lap and snuggle but I can’t touch her? What gives that she is a total different child when it is both parents with her versus just me?

    The Toddler Cycle Of Doom

    Favorites. We all have them. Favorite foods. Favorite colors. Favorite books. And let's be honest, we even have a favorite parent. This is cool until you realize you're the least favorite parent--then it's not cool, ha!

    It starts a vicious cycle: toddler acts appropriately (and this is key to note: it is NOT a toddler’s fault. This is 100% normal behavior and they should not be demeaned for it and/or blamed). The un-favored parent feels neglected and gets frustrated. The longer this cycle goes, the more frustrated and distant the parent begins to feel to their child. At one point you may even get to the point of feeling, “Why do I bother?”

    You Aren’t Alone

    I feel you. I have been there.

    I have had days where I cry on the way home because I walk in to pick my sweet girl up from daycare,
    and she runs away the second she sees me, followed by throwing a fit to leave, and screaming the whole way home.

    She has cried tearfully “don’t like mom” when it comes to me attempting to do bedtime.

    I’ve sat across the room from her as she has played, wishing I could just be next to her without being told to “go mom!”

    But, for every one of those instances where I have been at my wits end calling Tyler demanding that he return home because I cannot take anymore of her whining (hello, mommy mental breakdown), there has been indefinitely more instances where I forget all of those ugly mom moments.

    Favorites. We all have them. Favorite foods. Favorite colors. Favorite books. And let's be honest, we even have a favorite parent. This is cool until you realize you're the least favorite parent--then it's not cool, ha!

    I’ve walked into daycare to pick her up and she sprints across the gym and thrusts herself in my arms, wrapping me in the biggest toddler hug claiming “miss you mom!”

    She has whispered in my ear “don’t leave mom” and thrown her arms around my neck to keep me snuggled with her at bedtime.

    I’ve been pulled to sit down so she can crawl in my lap to play Legos, read a book, or just talk.

    I try to remind myself of all those endless articles about her ever growing mind, and remember that they are right. She will get beyond this stage; I get her tantrums because she is emotionally comfortable to express herself; she is learning her limits. This too shall pass.

    So, here are some tips I have found to help guide me to be patient and loving when I am feeling rejected by my toddler!

    How To Handle Being The Least Favorite Parent

    Take a cheat moment.

    We all try to be those “great” moms that limit junk food and screen time, plan activities, and engage their child outdoors. If you’re feeling toddler-jected do what you can to calm the situation. If that means throwing on a movie so mommy can breathe and just take a second to reset, then do it.

    Don’t cave in

    If your toddler is having a bratty moment and throwing a fit because s/he wants something (and you’re saying no), then hold your ground! It is okay to be frustrated and to want to give in for the sake of being on your child’s “good side,” but all it will get you is deeper into a power struggle.

    Instead, try gently suggesting they take a minute to calm down. I recently read an article about the benefits of having a “calming corner” in your home. When a child is about to emotionally erupt, they can go to the calming area to read a book, play with some soft toys, or just be alone. This usually resets them and then they are in a better state when they have to re-confront the issue.

    Favorites. We all have them. Favorite foods. Favorite colors. Favorite books. And let's be honest, we even have a favorite parent. This is cool until you realize you're the least favorite parent--then it's not cool, ha!

    I tried this with Evie’s toddler-sized couch; she was upset about not getting to help with something I was doing and I asked her if she wanted to go to the “calming couch” to read. Reluctantly, she walked over with me and things de-escalated quickly after that!

    Stay Involved

    Try to make an extra effort to do a special activity every week. For me, I chose to take Evie to an indoor gym with inflatables (think the bouncy houses kids have at birthday parties). She has a blast each time, and it is nice that she sometimes needs my help to climb some of the obstacles! Other times we go to the Children’s Museum or the Zoo; even something like going on a picnic (if you don’t live somewhere with perpetual winter like Minnesota…) or taking them to the pool would be a fun outing!

    At the end of the day, just remember: take it one cup of coffee at a time, and try to enjoy even the hard parts since they’ll grow up and past this stage and one day you will miss it!

    Favorites. We all have them. Favorite foods. Favorite colors. Favorite books. And let's be honest, we even have a favorite parent. This is cool until you realize you're the least favorite parent--then it's not cool, ha!

    Ready For Summer With Kids? Get Ready With These Tips

    Are you ready for summer with kids? As the school year comes to an end, not all of us are able to afford summer camps and some of us just don't want to go that route. If you're in need of some tips on how to thrive, we've got you covered.

    As this school year begins to dwindle away, those of us who don’t have the deep pockets for camp will be experiencing a home with empty pantries, high electric bills and a summer with kids pretty soon. The addition of children in the house full time can throw anyone’s routine upside down. I’ll be honest and say that I’m nowhere near being the perfect parent.  I can be quick to associate any extended time off from school with my children with my patience level being at an all-time low.

    As adults, we have our schedules and routines already together.  For those that work from home, we have our special time to get work done and complete chores.  I’m sure it would be easy just to allow our children to become couch potatoes during their summer break and fry their brains over video games and cartoons, but that’s just not the way to do it.  Learning how to apply patience to having children home for an extended period of time is never an easy thing to do.  Here are a few things that I’ve learned over the years to keep my sanity and peace in the household.

    Relieve stress

    It’s pretty easy for us to lose our patience with our children when we allow ourselves to become stressed and don’t take time for ourselves.  Make sure to take a few minutes of your day to relieve stress the best way you know how.  This could be done with some type of physical activity, reading a book, or even a little quiet time alone in the bathroom.  Get it in when you can and where you can just as long you don’t take it out on the kids.

    Let them have some fresh air

    Being stuck inside all day can take a toll on anyone who’s got the wiggles.  Kids need some time to let their inner super hero out to play.  They can easily become restless and just plain unruly when confined inside for too long.  I read a statistic once that said people in prison get more time outside than children do.  Just hearing that, whether true or not, pushed me to make playtime outside a necessity.  Let them get all the wiggles out.  Allow them to run, jump, scream, do whatever their little heart’s desire so that it doesn’t happen inside the house.

    Are you ready for summer with kids? As the school year comes to an end, not all of us are able to afford summer camps and some of us just don't want to go that route. If you're in need of some tips on how to thrive, we've got you covered.

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    Create a loose schedule

    This schedule does not have to be strict by any means.  Just make sure you have a road map to go by to keep the day organized for not only the kids, but yourself as well.  Understand that while they’re home, you may not get as much done around the house or for work.  More of your time is going to be devoted to keeping little humans alive which is pretty important.

    Schedule times through the day to complete chores, educational tasks, fun art projects and family outings.  Sticking to a regular flow of tasks will make things just a little bit easier and a lot less frustrating.  I use to go crazy trying to complete work while helping my five year-old trace letters and make her a snack at the same time.  Now I create a block of time for my work and a separate block for hers so that we aren’t both frustrated at the same time.

     

    Are you ready for summer with kids? As the school year comes to an end, not all of us are able to afford summer camps and some of us just don't want to go that route. If you're in need of some tips on how to thrive, we've got you covered.

    Spend time with them

    There may be a list of things that you could be doing this summer, but it’s not often that you get the opportunity to spend the entire day with your kids.  I know that in my house, it’s usually dinner, homework, and then the bed time routine.  We miss out on watching our children grow right before our eyes.  Our patience can wear thin and being home with the little ones can become frustrating, but they won’t be little for long.  Take some time to play dress up or hide and seek.  Listen to their imaginative stories they like to tell.  Stop using the phrases, “not right now,” “I’m busy,” or “maybe later.”  Stop what you’re doing to actually listen and interact with your little humans.  Read books to them and don’t omit the extremely animated voices for each character.

    However you decide to spend your summer with the family, make sure that you are intentional about exercising patience.  Understand that kids will be kids.  Their tolerance levels for stress and frustration will never amount to yours.  Ensure that both of you are in an environment that allows you to express yourselves peacefully.  Work together to make the best of the summer and every day after.

    Are you ready for the summer with kids? How do you take advantage of your kids being out of school?  What tools do you use to exercise patience during chaotic times?

    Are you ready for summer with kids? As the school year comes to an end, not all of us are able to afford summer camps and some of us just don't want to go that route. If you're in need of some tips on how to thrive, we've got you covered.

     

     

     

     

    5 Must-Have Nursing Bras Under $50

    **Disclaimer** I have been sent samples of some of these that have been mentioned. There are also affiliate links in this post. All opinions are my own–they really do make my boobs happy.

    When you think of nursing bras, what comes to mind?

    Nothing sexy or too comfy, right?

    Well, retailers are changing the way we think about nursing bras with some new and really comfy additions to the scene. I’m a size 38D and trying to find nursing bras that fit properly was a challenge but I’ve tried out all of these and can definitely stand by the quality of them! If you’re interested in being cute and comfy while nursing, keep reading.

    5 Must-Have Nursing Bras

    1. The Marvella Classic Maternity & Nursing Underwire Free T-shirt Bra by Kindred Bravely

    I have this bra in white and listen, this is one of the most comfortable nursing bras to grace my boobs. The material is super soft which is nice but even better is that it offers quality lift without the discomfort that underwires bring. It has a racerback which is one of the reasons your boobs are able to stand at attention. It’s really comfortable to unlatch and it stays down while nursing baby. Love love love this. It retails for $49.99 and is worth it.

    2. Bamboobies® Nursing Yoga Bra

    Truth-bomb–I’ve yet to actually do yoga in this bra unless wrangling a baby is included in this. I was apprehensive about getting the hot pink but I love this bra. It’s so comfy and feels like you’re wearing nothing. This bra retails for $29.99.

    3. Laurel Nursing Tank Top by Yummie

    This is my favorite tank ever that will continue to be worn after I’m done nursing. This is a shapewear nursing tank that gives moms a svelte silhouette while nursing their babies. Most tanks don’t actually hold me in but baaaaaaby this thing does! And I love it! I don’t feel self-conscious at all while nursing–I’m the mom that doesn’t hesitate to whip my boobs out to feed my baby but I’m more concerned about my stomach being seen than my boobs! Ha! This tank is on sale now for $29 so you should grab it ASAP!

    4. The Lucille Nursing Nightgown & Maternity Lingerie by Kindred Bravely

    Who said you can’t look hot while nursing? Certainly not the folks over at Kindred Bravely! I have this in the Ocean Mist color and love it. I love that I can wear something that makes me feel good about myself while still being able to nurse the baby easily. This material is seriously like a dream on my skin. This baby is only $49.99.

    5. MAMA Microfiber Nursing Bra by H&M

    Ok let’s start with I had no idea up until recently that H&M even sold nursing bras let alone super cute and comfy ones. This bra is a microfiber fabric with some lacy details that make you feel fancy while wearing them. Love love love that it’s only $19.99 as well!

    So tell me mama’s, what’s your favorite nursing bra on the scene? Is it one of these?

    How To Avoid Being A Zombie Mom

    This post is sponsored by Vicks.

    When you have kids, everyone always focuses on an evening routine for them. No one ever thinks about poor mom who is walking around looking like an extra from The Walking Dead. Until now.

    Mamas, I’m here for you—for us.

    We Spend All Day On Everyone Else

    Whether you’re a work-at-home mom or stay-at-home mom, chances are your days are filled with taking care of everyone else. By the time that you’ve run all the errands, picked up/dropped off/picked back up everyone, cooked dinner, read a million books, kissed heads and gotten super hugs, you’re ready for a moment for yourself. Depending on your lifestyle, this may look different but when you’re what’s affectionately known as a mompreneur, once the kids are in bed the work begins.

    Have you ever seen that mom walking around with bags large enough to carry groceries or like she was rejected from The Walking Dead? Yeah, that's what we call a zombie mom. Avoid being her at all costs with these tips.

    Creative Minds Flourish At Night

    With the darkness comes silence and with silence comes the churning of new and amazing thoughts. I always say that once my brain wakes up, that’s it. I can’t go back to sleep. But that’s the same for me at night. Once I get excited about a post or project or new piece that I want to sew I don’t want to stop until it’s done. Sometimes that turns into 2am and then I’m functioning on limited amount of sleep the next as I pray for an IV of coffee.

    While it’s great to be productive, it’s not great if it leaves me beyond exhausted the next day. I know it’s not just me, but when I’m tired I can’t move as quickly, think clearly, or be as efficient as I need to be with 3 kids. I don’t like not being productive but even more so, I hate being tired and discombobulated. But sometimes it’s hard to shut down and get to bed at a decent hour so I decided to handle myself the way I would one of my kids: I put myself on an evening wind down routine.

    Have you ever seen that mom walking around with bags large enough to carry groceries or like she was rejected from The Walking Dead? Yeah, that's what we call a zombie mom. Avoid being her at all costs with these tips.

    These taste like dreams waiting to be had.

    My Evening Routine

    Before I share with you my routine, I want you to know that I’m basically the equivalent to a child when it comes to going to bed, so it’s not going to be what you see in movies where ladies are rubbing moisturizer on their hands and turning off lamps on their nightstands. My husband and I normally pass out wherever we sit for more than 5 minutes and then fuss at each other to go lay down. We’re getting it together with this routine though:

    After I put BC to bed

    • Work for 2 hours tops
    • Have a cup of tea
    • Wash face, brush teeth, moisturize face (and possibly hands, ha)
    • Read daily affirmations
    • Snuggle up with one (or both) of my guys
    • Doze off easily

    Another step in my nighttime is now thanks to the new, Vicks PURE Zzzs Soothing Aromatherapy Balm. The balm is made with lavender and chamomile essentials oils to help moisturize your skin…and the aromas are so relaxing before bedtime.

    Have you ever seen that mom walking around with bags large enough to carry groceries or like she was rejected from The Walking Dead? Yeah, that's what we call a zombie mom. Avoid being her at all costs with these tips.

    Getting Great Sleep With ZzzQuil

    Do you remember when Vicks ZzzQuil first came out? I do. I remember thinking, “Yes!!! Now I no longer have to take NyQuil when all I really need is sleep!!!” But did you know they’ve expanded their line?

    They now have ZzzQuil PURE Zzzs Melatonin Gummies that taste like dreams waiting to happen. I take 1-2 gummies before balm and they help me fall asleep naturally. They also contain the optimal level of melatonin so I can wake refreshed with no next-day grogginess*.

    Additionally, when I am traveling or occasionally need to fall asleep in 20 minutes or less, I turn to ZzzQuil, instead of the gummies. ZzzQuil allows me to fall asleep fast, because we all have those days every so often, right?

    25 Ways To Show Your Kids You Love Them

    Ready to show your kids you love them? Here are 25 ways that correspond with the 5 Love Languages that anyone can do right now.

    I would be lying if I didn’t admit that some days are easier than others to love up on my children. On those days, I sincerely struggle with figuring out just how to cater to their needs so I came up with a list of 25 ways to show my kids I love them. These are broken down by the 5 Languages of Love because this is a concept that I not only believe in but has proven useful with my own children.

    Ready to show your kids you love them? Here are 25 ways that correspond with the 5 Love Languages that anyone can do right now.

    25 Ways To Show Your Kids You Love Them

    Quality Time:

    • Take them to the movies to see the latest kid flick.
    • Create conversation cards to chat about with them.
    • Do a fun craft together.
    • Have a movie night at home filled with popcorn and snuggles.
    • Go to the park and play with your child.

    Acts of Service

    • Make them their favorite meal.
    • Pack them their favorite snack.
    • Do one of their chores for them.
    • Do something that they’ve asked you to do–within reason.
    • Offer to help them with something they’re having difficulty with.

    Words of Affirmation

    • Leave a note for them affirming something they’ve done.
    • Always say “I love you”.
    • Praise them aloud in front of people.
    • Speak affirmations with them.
    • Come up with a cheer or song that has their name in it.

    Physical Touch

    • Hold hands even when not crossing the street.
    • Hug at least 12 times a day.
    • Cuddle them often.
    • Put your arm around them when reading a book.
    • Rub their faces gently.

    Gifts

    • Make their favorite meal.
    • Give them presents randomly.
    • Make sure to have presents during birthdays and holidays.
    • Give them the opportunity to earn gifts.
    • Make a scavenger hunt for a special gift.

    It’s easy to think and hope that our kids know that we love them but it’s important that we show them as well. Not sure what your child’s love language is? Check out this post by Busy Kids Happy Mom for some help in determining what your child’s language is.

    How I’m Reclaiming My Time After Having A Baby

    Disclaimer: Compensation was provided by Philips Avent via Momtrends. The opinions expressed herein are those of the author and are not indicative of the opinions of Philips Avent or Momtrends.

    I recently started to reconsider how I was allocating the seconds, minutes, hours of my days and thinking about the different ways that I could be reclaiming my own time. As a mom to my final baby, it’s time for me to start to the reclaiming my time process.

    I am reclaiming my time and redefining what it means to just be me with the help of the New Philips Avent bottle! Read here to find out just what that means as a homeschooling mom of three.

    Finding Who You Are Outside Your Roles

    I wouldn’t say that motherhood has made me forget who I am as a woman. I mean, I’m fairly confident who I am outside of being a mom. But towards the end of last year, I began to forget who I was outside of being an entrepreneur. The things that once started out as hobbies and fun turned into deadlines and stress. I forgot to enjoy myself and how to just have fun. I didn’t realize it until I was reviewing the answers for the end of the year survey and someone said they wanted me to write more about myself outside of being a mom or wife.

    It really took me by surprise because:

    1. Someone wanted to know about me.
    2. I didn’t know who I was outside of being an entrepreneur.

    This is so problematic to me and it made me want to cry! How did I get to this place of not even knowing what I like to do for fun or who I was outside of working, nursing a baby, teaching these kids, and being a wife? I know how I got here. I forgot to pay attention to me and my needs so now I’m reclaiming my time.

    I am reclaiming my time and redefining what it means to just be me with the help of the New Philips Avent bottle! Read here to find out just what that means as a homeschooling mom of three.

    Reclaiming My Time As A Nursing Mom

    As a nursing mom, there’s only so much I can do right away. I’m not picking up and heading to Bali for a week tomorrow. But I am making a more concerted effort to get out of the house by myself without a baby attached to my boob or checking social media. Leaving my baby is hard. I’m not going to lie. I love snuggling him and smelling his little head and I absolutely love our nursing relationship. But I need to know who I am again.

    I’m not picking up and heading to Bali for a week tomorrow. But I am making a more concerted effort to get out of the house by myself without a baby attached to my boob or checking social media.Click To Tweet

    I’ve been pumping and building a supply so that when I leave BC, I know that I have enough milk. I’m so low maintenance when it comes to pumping and bottle feeding so I need something that isn’t going to deter me from doing it.

    I am reclaiming my time and redefining what it means to just be me with the help of the New Philips Avent bottle! Read here to find out just what that means as a homeschooling mom of three.

    The Truth of Bottle Feeding

    Bottle feeding hasn’t come as easily as we would have liked it to. Mini was the only to take her bottle like a champ with no issue. But BC is finicky and will typically only take a bottle from daddy, but he eventually takes it and that’s reassuring–I’m not trying to starve my sweet boy! We’re currently using the new Philips Avent Anti-colic bottle with AirFree vent that was recently released. I like this bottle because it’s easy to clean and makes it so that BC doesn’t swallow as much air when he’s nursing reducing colic, reflux and gas. This bottle was designed to mimic the breast as much as possible with a softer nipple, flexible spiral designed for easy latch, and making it easy for them to hold. While BC is hesitant on taking the bottle, he is realizing it is close to what I would provide him.

    Leaving my baby is hard. I’m not going to lie. I love snuggling him and smelling his little head and I absolutely love our nursing relationship. But I need to know who I am again.Click To Tweet

    I am reclaiming my time and redefining what it means to just be me with the help of the New Philips Avent bottle! Read here to find out just what that means as a homeschooling mom of three. I am reclaiming my time and redefining what it means to just be me with the help of the New Philips Avent bottle! Read here to find out just what that means as a homeschooling mom of three.

    Philips Avent

    Philips Avent isn’t new to this whole baby bottle game. They’ve been around for more than 30 years working to make products that help moms in reclaiming their time by providing bottles that meet the needs of both moms and babies. The new Anti-Colic bottle reduces colic and fussing by 60% while offering different flow rates as well. Interested in learning more? Check out Philips Avent here!

    I am reclaiming my time and redefining what it means to just be me with the help of the New Philips Avent bottle! Read here to find out just what that means as a homeschooling mom of three.

    So moms, how do you go about reclaiming your time and making sure that you take time for just you?

     

    Happy 2018: Shoot Your Shot

    All those who were ready for 2017 to end, raise your hands! grabs a couple peoples hands to grab because I was way over 2017 Guys, 2017 was a clusterf— and I’m so happy that I made it to 2018! Did you choose a focus word? I didn’t. I chose a phrase: Shoot Your Shot.

    I know, that almost seems like it’s too broad but whatever. I spent 2017 watching people achieve the greatness that I wanted for myself because I didn’t make an ask, follow through, etc. But that’s not going to be me this year. This year I’m going for it all in all areas of my life.

    Bye, Bye 2017!!!

    Ok. So 2017 wasn’t ALL bad but it was some bad. Change dominated our lives around the TCM household. At the end of 2016, we made the decision to homeschool the girls when we moved. We moved back to civilization BUT the school system in our area was no bueno so instead of worrying about the quality of education they would be getting, we decided I would just do it.

    We also found out that we were expecting BC! I love the idea of pregnancy but the reality is that pregnancy doesn’t fit me so well. I spent the better part of 2017 tired, in pain, cranky and puking. Yeah, not good at all. I ended 2016 ready to make 2017 my year and that didn’t happen AT ALL.

    Hello 2018!!!

    Now I’m not expecting 2018 to be perfect. That would be silly. But our family is pretty much done making changes. We’re done having children so our family dynamic is finished. This year we’re focusing on buying a house (finally) and really just fine tuning some things, i.e. behavior, schedules, and really getting into a rhythm.

    Shoot Your Shot

    This is almost like a version of Shonda Rhimes “Year of Yes” except I’m being more proactive. In sales, there’s a concept that’s taught to not out sell yourself. What does this mean? Meaning don’t assume what the customer needs and that you can’t provide it. I spent 2017 telling myself I didn’t know enough, I didn’t take good enough photos, my content wasn’t good enough, my videos weren’t good enough but then I would see others just out here being great.

    2018 is my year to be great. That’s what “shoot your shot” means. I’m just going to be as great as I possibly can giving my best and knowing that it’s good enough.

    Are you ready to take 2018 by storm? What’s your word or theme for the year?

    Making It Through The Fourth Trimester With Baby Wearing

    Did you know that babies have a fourth trimester in their development? Well it includes lots of holding and snuggles and baby wearing makes this easy!

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    Baby wearing is an awesome tool for new mamas transitioning through the fourth trimester. Find out why in this sponsored posting.

    Did you know that both babies and moms experience a fourth trimester? I know, four kinda negates the whole tri–I get it but it’s true. The first three months of a baby’s life is considered the fourth trimester. This is also the hardest time for recovery for moms. As I wrap of my third fourth trimester, I’m sharing the secret to an easy transition–babywearing.

    If you follow me on social media (which you totally should be!!!) you’ve already seen the candid shots in my Instagram Stories of both my husband and I wearing BC. We wear him to do all the things–literally. In fact, as I type this right now, I’m wearing BC in the very same Ergobaby™ Omni 360 that I’ve worn him in since he was born. While he’s changed drastically weighing in at a whopping 16.9 pounds and 25 inches–more than double his birth weight–my use of carrier hasn’t.

    Did you know that babies have a fourth trimester in their development? Well it includes lots of holding and snuggles and baby wearing makes this easy!

    How Does Baby Wearing Help In The Fourth Trimester?

    Our babies go from being held and hugged for 10 months (if you make it full term) in the dark and warmth to the bright, colder world. There are all these really awesome and amazing pieces of baby gear for us to put our babies down in but once we do, what happens? Most of them cry. All of mine did–except abc when I would put her in her rocker. But both Mini and BC love their snuggles and in truth, I love giving them. And that’s what the fourth trimester is. It’s that transition from the constant snuggle of being inside our wombs to now being snuggled outside of it.

    Did you know that babies have a fourth trimester in their development? Well it includes lots of holding and snuggles and baby wearing makes this easy! Did you know that babies have a fourth trimester in their development? Well it includes lots of holding and snuggles and baby wearing makes this easy!

    Baby wearing helps this so much because you can still hold them and snuggle them while being hands-free. This isn’t so much of a game changer when it’s your first and you don’t have other kids to juggle but it’s also a huge help in the healing process for mom. Walking and being active helps and the weight distribution of baby while wearing them makes it easy on your back to me mobile while snuggling with them.

    Sleep When Your Baby Sleeps–Right

    I wish. I have two very active girls that I’m the primary caretaker of. I have taken some naps with BC in the beginning but not recently. Why? Because I literally have all the things to do. Not saying that I don’t have time to snuggle with him but mom-ing multiples means being able to balance loving more than one child at a time. My Ergobaby™ Omni 360 allows me to do just that.

    Did you know that babies have a fourth trimester in their development? Well it includes lots of holding and snuggles and baby wearing makes this easy! Did you know that babies have a fourth trimester in their development? Well it includes lots of holding and snuggles and baby wearing makes this easy!

    Whether I’m teaching, grocery shopping, doing laundry, cooking, working, or <insert everything else that working moms do> I can do it without sacrificing my sanity because he’s crying to be held. I love having the flexibility to “do all the things” while nurturing one of the most important things.

    Tips To Baby Wearing Through The Fourth Trimester

    I’ve been blessed that all 3 of mine have liked to be worn or I wouldn’t know how to function but not all baby carriers are made equally. Here’s how to choose the best one:

    Did you know that babies have a fourth trimester in their development? Well it includes lots of holding and snuggles and baby wearing makes this easy! Did you know that babies have a fourth trimester in their development? Well it includes lots of holding and snuggles and baby wearing makes this easy!

    • Adjustable from birth: Unless you’re balling you probably don’t want to buy multiple carriers. There are only a couple of soft carriers that are made to be used from newborn. Don’t just use any carrier from the newborn phase because it may not be good for their hip health.
    • Easy to put on: I love the baby wraps but honestly, they don’t work for my lifestyle and they may not work for yours. The faster and easier the carrier is to use, the more use you’ll get out of it–no one has time to fuss with ties!
    • Comfortable for you: Just like not all carriers are comfy for baby, they aren’t all comfy for you! Make sure that the one that you choose feels natural for your body.
    • Easy to adjust for different people: I love that my husband wears our baby. There’s nothing sexier than a hands-on hubby! But chances are you guys don’t have the same measurements so you’ll need something that adjusts easy.

    What are some tools you wish you had or loved through your fourth trimester?

    This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Ergobaby™ Omni 360.

    Quality Mommy & Me Time With American Girl®

    Big thanks to American Girl® for partnering together for this post!

    Becoming a mom of three has been the most insane roller coaster that I could have ever imagined. We have these amazing days where I feel like the most awesome mom and there’s days where I feel like I’ve failed everyone. One of the things that I’m really working hard on has making sure that my girls get quality mommy & me time. I don’t want them feeling replaced by our new addition and I want them to make sure that they know I value their place in our family.

    Getting Mommy & Me Time In

    It’s hard. I would be lying if I said that I was doing an excellent job at it. BC is 13 weeks old now and still quite dependent on me. And I’m back to work again which makes things more difficult. But when I put him down for naps, I try and get some one on one time with each of the girls. I’m learning that although self-sufficient, they still really need mommy.

    I've always wanted three kids. But I never factored in the mommy & me time with them! It's so important and American Girl® has helped!

    One of my favorite dolls growing up was my Addy doll from American Girl®. My dad actually worked on the original advertisement for her. I loved her story and that she looked like me–representation matters. Now that Mini is old enough to respect her things, American Girl® and I gifted her the Gabriela doll–a doll that she was excited looked like her.

    I've always wanted three kids. But I never factored in the mommy & me time with them! It's so important and American Girl® has helped!

    Incorporating American Girl® Into Our Time

    It’s no news here that I’m a seamstress and if you follow me on social media then you know that Mini is a budding seamstress herself so we use this time to hang out. She’s made herself a couple of skirts in the past but this time I thought it would be fun to make Gabriela a dress to match a shirt that I had made her (that also matches one of my dresses). One of my favorite pattern groups Made for Mermaids just came out with the Catherine pattern that I had the pleasure of testing.

    I've always wanted three kids. But I never factored in the mommy & me time with them! It's so important and American Girl® has helped!

    Sewing With My Girl

    Let me say this, sewing clothes for myself is pretty easy and I though that it would be easy to make tiny clothes–I was wrong! Mini did a great job in cutting out the pattern and then piecing it together. Seeing her in this capacity shows me how much she’s really grown and it’s crazy to me that I have an almost 8 year old. I’m constantly in teacher mode courtesy of homeschooling but when we’re sewing I get the opportunity to be more of her friend.

    I've always wanted three kids. But I never factored in the mommy & me time with them! It's so important and American Girl® has helped!

    Sewing is something that we both really enjoy and making clothes for Gabriela was pretty fun. I love taking an interest in the things that she enjoys and I can really see a difference in her behavior after we’ve had time together. Though I wish it were more time, our mutual love of American Girl® has made our mommy & me time quite fruitful!

    I've always wanted three kids. But I never factored in the mommy & me time with them! It's so important and American Girl® has helped!

    Mama’s of multiples, how do you get your mommy & me time in?

     

    How To Build A Breast Milk Stash When Baby Is Home

    Whether you're a stay-at-home or work-at-home mom, having a breast milk stash is a must. Here's how to build one while baby is home with you.

    As I get ready to head to my best friend’s wedding next week, I realized that this is the first time that my freezer isn’t overflowing with a stash of breastmilk. BC is only 12 weeks old but by this point in time I’ve normally been back to work and not had to battle a baby’s belly for time to pump. While my freezer isn’t full of milk, I do have a big of a breast milk stash for when I need some time away.

    Wondering how to build your breast milk stash so that you can take some mommy time away from baby? Here’s how.

    Boost Your Supply

    Water

    Make sure that you’re getting a minimum of 100oz of water per day as a bare minimum. If you’re working on boosting your supply, you need more than this. More water = more milk.

    Beer

    Yesssss!!! Beer helps your milk production! This is one of my favorite things because I’m a huge fan of Blue Moon Beer. Oh, it’s so divine! I’m doing myself a solid WHILE investing in my baby!

    Supplements

    There are the pill forms that you can take (Brewers Yeast, Fenugreek, Tumeric), make a delicious treat, or buy snacks that are for milk production. I was given an Oat Mama bar at a recent Ergo Baby event and fell in love. When I was pregnant with abc, I tried a cookie that was meant to help boost your milk supply. When I tell you that it was beyond gross I mean it. I was really hesitant to try the granola bars from Oat Mama but figured they were free so why not.

    Listen. These things are chewy bars of deliciousness. After I gobbled down my bar I contacted them to see how I could get more. Not only do they taste delicious but they work. Twenty minutes after eating my bar I had a let down and this was just 30 minutes after nursing BC. Right. Insane. Because I’m a drinker I had to try their Chai Lactation Tea. I use this as the base of my Chai Tea Lattes and feel fancy while boosting my supply!

    Whether you're a stay-at-home or work-at-home mom, having a breast milk stash is a must. Here's how to build one while baby is home with you.

    Get to Pumping

    Because baby is always with you it may be hard to pump so here are some of the best times:

    In the morning

    I know my supply is always overflowing in the mornings. He’s a pretty late sleeper so I get a pump session in between nursing him when I get up and a couple hours later.

    Immediately after they nurse

    This will not only give you some great fatty milk but it will help increase your supply because it’ll trick your body into thinking baby needs more milk.

    After they go to bed

    I typically will pump about an hour after he goes down and after I’ve had some tea.

    Because I’m not pumping to replace many feedings, I just use a manual pump. My favorite manual pump is the Medela Harmony.

    I started to travel with a pump as well just for convenience and because I’d heard so many good things about this pump here:

    While pumping and building your breast milk stash isn’t easy while baby is home, it’s totally doable and a must so that you can begin to reclaim your time!

    Fellow breastfeeding mamas what tips do you have for building your breast milk stash?

    How To Build A Breast Milk Stash When Baby Is Home